Lots of comments. lol ozzy, you can think of the story with reversed names if you want. err0r outed you, because he decided to run things with his sweatheart instead. 
and I already been 
Warrior first no one gave me that pass in confidence. It would be like err0r and ozzy. err0r knows ozzy pretty well, and probably knows what ozzy loves. It wouldn't be too surprising if err0r suddenly realized ozzy's password, especially considering ozzy made his password only 5 letters long, and the one thing he loves most.
err0r I respect your point of view about the whole it's not that hard to make a group, and it's really not. The biggest issue that confronted me on that one was the ideals of the members. For some reason the 'room' itself became like home for alot of people--like a personification of a much loved member of the family. There were memories of this or that, which people often brought up. Early on it was decided that having our room taken over was wrong, but we wanted to show show grace and kindness in return, and continue to support our room no matter who tried to take it away from us. Looking back I don't agree with this set of choices, and this is probably where I would make changes in my path, if I could go back and do so.
Yet even with this philosophy, as the years went by, a few people did try to just start a new group. But the majority of the room condemned them for this, and accused them of trying to split the room up. The philosophy of that particular group was to be long suffering and to turn the other check. Most tried to overcome the wrong they felt had been done to them, by showing kindness in return. But eventually most of the good ones just lost heart and stopped coming around, or they were banned for speaking their mind. The unbanned ones showed up every now and then to see if things had gotten better, and the banned ones snuck in under new names, and tried to continue chatting like that until they were discovered and rebanned.
It isn't like this decision jumped up in one day. It was the accumulation of what I now consider a series of really bad choices. After three years of having the room taken over by a new person, and 2 years after having the first group shut down and supporting the new persons group.... There just was no real reason left to open a new site, and there was no room to base that site on anyways, as the new person had first taken over the orginal room. Plus the system had gone to subscription by that time, so we didn't have the people willing to pay to run a new room to attract new people to a new group, and again, there just weren't really any new people around to attract anyways, as hardly anyone wanted to pay the subscription. And all the old members were stubbornly standing faithful to the room they had always used, despite having had it taken away from several years prior.
I agree whole heartedly that the best route to take would have been to start a new room right after the very first room was taken over. But as a group we all chose not to do that out of some misplaced sense of loyalty to the room itself. In the end, that was my route of preference also. I spent upwards of two months trying to convince the owners to let me post the link to a new site, so that people would have a choice of where they wanted to hang out, and how they wanted to be treated. He refused to post that link, even though I attempted to post it dozens of times. Finally I attempted to just post a simple note for people to email me if they were interested in chatting in a new group, but those posts were also rejected. I tried reasoning with him, but he simply would not losen his hold over the site.
So yes, I did spend several years, trying many other ways to deal with the situation, but eventually was faced with the following situation. Now knowing the history, I would like you to consider the situation also.
You see a site you have poured your heart into, and people you care about deeply being ripped apart. The option to make a new site causes most members to see you as a divider, and so you realize making a new site will not fix what is happening anyways, due to the faithful philosophy of the members to stand by the room no matter how badly they are treated.
One day after much anguished thinking, a light bulb goes off in your mind, as you see a word flash against the back of your eyes. You know in your heart that it is a password. And you realize also who's password it is. Being more than a little doubtful of this, and hardly believing it could be true you try it out, just to set your mind at ease that its just fantasy, and not really the real password. But it works.
Now you are faced with a whole new situation. You are now watching a site and people you care very much about being treated terribly, and have spent the last 3 years watching things get worse and worse and worse. Yet suddenly you have the ability to really do something about it--to end that terrible treatment. Do you:
A: Ignore the knowledge you have, and watch the wrong treatment continue.
B: Use the knowledge you have to end the wrong treatment.
When I cut through all the other wrongs and rights, this is where I was left standing..right in the middle of these two choices.
Like I said to start with, depending on which day it is, you will get two opposite reponses from me on whether my decision was right or wrong.
Ultimately and in all honesty, at the point in time when I was faced with these final two choices, I really don't regret the choice I made. In all likely hood, regardless of how many think it was the wrong choice, I'm not one to stand passively by and watch wrong treatment continue..I do what I can to end it. Trying the least invasive methods first, and moving onto more invasive methods if the gentler ones don't work.
What I do regret now is to standing passivly by and allowing selfish people to steal, and take things that others worked so hard to build. It is not right to stand by and allow wrong treatment to be done to ourselvse or to others.
In ending, ethics are tough things to deal with. How we view an issue is an accumulation of internalized values and morals. Often there is no easy right or wrong response, but rather people can only judge the situation based on what they have been taught or learned all their lives, often without realizing the full history of choices that have occured to bring the person to one specific choice--often a choice that consists of choosing between the lesser of two evils. Sometimes it isn't a matter of letting the world conform us to its pattern of right or wrong, but it is standing firm in what we really believe in our heart to be the right choice at the time.
